5 Tips on Dealing with Anger Anger leaves behind remainders to become reminders. Be wise to forgive and let go of the destructive anger. Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The cause of anger is not outside. It lies in your belief that others can affect you. Let go of the anger and pain in order to welcome new beginnings into life. Amend the wrong belief behind your anger rather than controlling your anger, For you may avert it now but its roots are left untreated in your mind.